B L O G | Author | Poet | Essayist

Don’t Let Go Even When You’re Apart

Every time I take a break from my memoir, I think it’s no big deal. I can’t work all the time, after all. But once I go on that trip,...

When I Am Supported, Everything I Do Has Extra Bounce

A powerful leader, business-owner, and spiritual guide once told me she regularly relies on therapists, diversity coaches, mentors, and...

Start the Day in the Dark with Your Creative Love

When I was raising young children, I heard about moms who would get up at 5 a.m. to write. They were virtuous, whereas I could never pull...

How Do We Mother Ourselves?

The taskmaster in my head is the worst person to have around when I’m trying to create. She’s gripping a yardstick or a calendar and is...

How Do We Metabolize the Violence We've Consumed?

On the day after our wedding anniversary, I woke with a slight hangover. It wasn’t the wine, because I don’t drink anymore. Or the...

What Books Accompany You Up the Vine of Life?

I once had a self-help addiction. I’d hide my books on the gifts of imperfection and letting go of fear and the secrets of the enneagram...

Be Like a Solar Panel: Save Up Rays for Cloudy Days

I feel a little sad on cloudy days. When the sun goes away, it’s as if I am operating at 80% power. I feel sluggish and more pessimistic,...

What If My Biggest Idea Was Only the Cork?

Volumes have been written cataloguing the fears that block writers from finishing their novels. For me, it's been three years that I’ve...

We Animals Need Each Other

When my cat Frankie found me in my room, he mewed as if to say, "Here you are!" and then jumped up on the bed, positioned his body right...

Leave One Thing Out So Intuition Can Come In

When we loosen our grip even just a little bit, something else can step in to guide the way.

We Need Each Other to Create

We have a deep need to be known, seen, and heard. It is joyous to be creative. Yet so often we get bogged down by self-doubt, fear,...

I Go at my Own Sweet Pace

When the kids went back to school, instead of rushing into my long-neglected book project, I decided to try the turtle approach. If I...

Focus on What You Love

When I started feeling overwhelmed by the idea of revising my book draft, I decided to try the Marie Kondo Japanese decluttering...

Gather What You Do Best

Focus on your strengths and ignore the rest, I've heard say. So instead of reworking a draft full of stuff that makes me groan, I...

This Machine Will Save Me

After long months of avoiding my memoir, I was both terrified and excited to work on it again. The key to my success, I decided, would be...